Imagine a dial with a needle straight up and down. One tick to the left is towards the negative. One tick to the right is to the positive. The more you can take this gauge and live at degrees to the right, the better life will be. The better looking you’ll be. The more friends you will have.
If there’s a moment today when you find yourself on the negative side of neutral because something ‘happened to you’ or ‘someone said a thing’ to you… click that dial the other way. Look at it from a degree or two to the right. It’s not easy. Your brain will want to take the easy way out and blame or deflect or justify. Grab that dial hard and force it over. It’ll be worth it.